Why do we fear the uncontrollable?

Sickness?

Accident?

Death?

Unforeseen or unexpected things?

Just like we can't control these things, we also can't control other people, their emotions and decisions, what they will do or what will happen to them.

Why do we fear the things we can't control?

Why do people, especially women (more when they became a mother based on my observation) worry about a lot of stuff?

We worry because we care.

We fear more when we know that it is out of our control.

When we feel hopeless, some of us try to escape or run away.

Some find something else to focus their energy on (productive or unproductive tasks).

Some try to seek professional help.

Some experience some sort of mental breakdown (to some it is also physical).

Some pray and seek spiritual guidance.

And some of us just know that like an unwanted visitor, fear visits you even when you don't want to but it also go away when you push it out.

Human beings worst enemy is ourselves, our fears, our own demons.

The only thing we can control (or try to control) is ourselves, our emotions, our decisions. Our fears and demons listen to us, we feed them, we keep them alive and we can starve and kill them too.

I am not an expert but let me assure you that we all experience it, maybe on different degrees, but it is all part of who we are. This is a realization most of us know already.

It is normal to fear, what is not normal as cliche as it may sound, is to let fear rule us.

To let the uncontrollable control us.

Indeed, an idle mind is the devil's playground.

We all deal with fear differently but if you can't control it on your own anymore, please ask help.

If you don't want to trust a stranger (even if it is a professional especially during this time of COVID 19), contact a family member or a friend.

If you don't trust anyone or no one to trust to or feel like no one understands, choose any other ways to take your mind off it, a hobby or a anything you can find based on your research.

Some seek and find spiritual guidance.

Some was able to deal it on their own.

Fearing the uncontrollable and unknown is normal, letting it control you and how you live your life is NOT.

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